Say good-bye to boring sex! Experts reveal how to maximize pleasure between the sheets. It may seem obvious-have sex, and then feel great, right? But that's not always the case. Alyssa Dweck, co-author of V is for Vagina.
In an ideal world, during sex your body would respond to all kinds of stimulation the same benevolent way Oprah does to her audience members. Your partner goes down on you? You get an orgasm! Your partner pays a little extra attention to your nipples?
I am sitting at my desk in a nearly empty office on a December evening, feeling the sort of directionless melancholy that tends to take hold as the holiday season sets in, listening to a video of a gentle Russian woman whispering in my ear about how much she cares about my relaxation. Those who get ASMR describe the experience as a tingling inside their heads, or a head rush. Sometimes the sensation extends down their backs or limbs. Some people watch the videos to help them sleep at night.
I thought everyone already knew this, thanks to awkward conversations in health class and the movie Road Trip. The unnamed man was healthy, with a normal prostate and high sex drive. He purchased an Aneros helix, a fancy butt plug, to massage his tender prostate after an infection. He felt them everywhere—his penis, his anus, his pelvis, and his perineum the place between the anus and the scrotum. The man needed to wear a condom in order to catch any of the semen that came out when he finished, reports the researcher.